Oct 31st 2010 11:20AM In addition, along the lines of a good childhood being a factor in raising strong, healthy people that aren't merely self focused, as a former preferred highly paid babysitter by surprise, for all the ones who I am privvy to how they turned out as adults, they are all well off and surviving in the most expensive of cities and have good jobs and have married people with good jobs, academics and backgrounds. However, this was never my focus as a teenager who provided a childhood that should be the case; walks to the park, lots of outside playing, attention, a sense of humor, especially in too serious of an environment, and a total creative free for all environment, and basically being a kid myself and loving it. Some ended up in creative fields that are still well paid today in large cities. Others got well off creatively through more traditional fields. I remember when my mom sent over homemade blueberry muffins to me across the street and the little girl had never had such a thing, even with all that money around. She asked her mom to make them, and her mom used a box mix so she didn't like them as much of course. Some of these kids would knock on my door to play when I wasn't babysitting them, even if they were a toddler who couldn't even talk yet.
Oct 31st 2010 10:07AM The only way people who are so into themselves can survive is through their looks, you simply can not survive being so self centered otherwise. They can live years of their looks, even as they lose them because of the destruction of the family, there are plenty of desperate women.
In the workplace and the world, they do not get paid for being a self centered narcissist. That's why YOU have to pay for them as a woman who he relies on to meet current bills. He has not had to be a man with all of the free sex, and has not ever had to step up to the plate as women work, and do before and after the marriage. He has accomplished NOTHING, and nothing in his own right.
He has to come from a bad family to be the way he is and it is unchangeable. They got dropped off at some small house so everyone could make a buck that no one deserved. Nevertheless, you can't have sympathy because they will always be a negative in anyone's life - this is the price their parents will pay for making someone else raise their kids and not paying anything near what it costs to do the job right and motivate the caregiver. Shoot, I was making more as an uncertified babysitter, the favorite in the neighborhood when I was a teenager. What was it all the way back then decades ago...I think it was about $15.00 an hour, which I was just GIVEN because I was asked for and they were generous. No drive to work.
I encountered much such trash as I met them in my line of work. I had knowledge other women don't have since they have no exposure, are too vain, and they end up paying a high price for their lack of knowledge.
If you want to pay for some jerk, that's your business, but I think it's foolish. They will never change.
Oct 30th 2010 10:40PM I would classify narcissistic men who cheat as social rapists, and god help the women if he has looks. They truly are sociopaths, but the women enable them. I've been posting forever to stop this, because at least with a marriage ticket he has to pay his way and she'll get something out of it. I don't think they have any feelings for others, and it doesn't matter if the woman is more attractive naturally then any star, as I have seen them. It makes sense that they had a bad childhood as they are bad people, and I suspect they were dropped off at day care, and unnecessarily at that, to the point that the parents probably don't understand who their son is entirely, because they didn't raise them.
They will always get some woman, because men just aren't that attractive, and most of these guys who can get away with this with women are. Women refuse to learn from others, which is narcissistic in itself. They way he treats other women should matter to you; because in one form or another, thats what you will get from him.
I've dated men better looking then anything on screen who would fall under this category in this article and they are not good, whole men with backbone and strength, and they don't have to be because women enable them.. in time they are not financially successful...again...they didn't have to be. They aren't well employed either. They're immature.
They think they're smarter then they are and mess with the wrong crowd for this at some point and deal at some point with people of much higher intelligence who are on to them. They go for the easy, and they want alot back and they want it all for free. They lose their looks early in life, but there's so many desperate woman I'm sure one who is well enough employed will take him in if she can find some use for him, like raise her children from another man.
It is a bad memory dating very good looking men. Don't ever wish it upon yourself. However, there are attractive men who are nice and married and who don't lose their looks and they are not narcisstic (their mothers raised them) who have very high paying jobs and are generous and have empathy.
How you get them I have no idea, I stopped trying a long time ago and have no more concern.
Sep 28th 2010 11:50PM Your writing was very good and direct and fast moving, but I didn't like the second paragraph to the last, and the second to last line in it. It doesn't make sense. The "doesn't" should go and it should say "that involves" instead. For someone who got so much right up to this point, it was a bummer to be disappointed with this paragraph which will tie one's brain up in a knot trying to make sense of it.
Sep 3rd 2010 8:01PM Another thing, don't you think it's a little weird when someone just has so much going for them? Instead of thinking about this, people just want to latch on to this, and they will never be needed there. They want to latch on to someone who knows NOTHING, that's why they have it all, because they aren't the BRAINS behind it!!!! As if they remember. People are so stupid. I had to disconnect it was so disturbing how narcissistic and stupid they are. AND as if anyone I had helped REMEMBERS, the ingrates...financially protecting them for life and I get no credit. Instead I look like the loser! Hasn't anyone learned anything from the housing catastrophy and state of the economy?
Sep 3rd 2010 7:50PM They aren't using FB the way it should be used. It should be to learn more about others and share their own stories instead of telling us what drink they had that day. You already know about yourself; are you so empty that you have nothing to share and say that the only thing you can do is promote your own popularity on your own wall? If you had any real friends you wouldn't need Facebook; and FB is a bunch of people trying to ride off someone else's coat tail of wealth or life; even if they are a no income earning spouse. My god, with all that money, they still can't leave their own wall and it's all about THEM; and they have NOTHING to say. People want to go where the popularity already is and where they aren't needed. They do this in more extreme measures then just FB; they actually move to be closer to these people, and it doesn't work out, whatever. Like always, looking for the easy. They'll regret it later. No fool is going to call that a friend.
Aug 27th 2010 9:26PM Sure.
Jul 11th 2010 10:26AM The ideas of these "As Seen on TV" products are always great, but so horribly executed with poor quality materials. If they were made with quality I'd have bought them. Otherwise they're always such a disappointment when you check them out. Put the money into them...enough has been saved by not having other overheads.
Jul 10th 2010 10:20AM I've always loved their story, about what can happen when you have the ability to look beyond yourself, and look what a great work ethic they have.
And remember, John Lennon only became a househusband, after he made enough money to protect his family for life! (I bring it up for those who have used this example to send out their wife to bring home the money they need while they stay at home unemployed).
These guys did without alot, practiced alot, and attracted alot of artists, rising above the lot in life laid out for them. Imagine how freaky it would be for them to see the costs of living in London if they didn't have the money to afford it. If only more people were willing to wait around for the fruits of labor....they'd all be alot wealthier eventually.
Jul 9th 2010 9:51PM No one who has a mortgage should be considered rich. It's frightening that once they get the house and owe so much then they live like no one in America ever has before on credit too, and to cap it off...they did absolutely nothing to live like that.
Worse, is when they can stick their bill on taxpayers after they enjoyed their phony wealth for so long and this did effect the lifes of the truly realistic.
I don't know what has to be done to people to get them to understand, but it seems like nothing can accomplish it. Still in a depression, your're still seeing people who think the whole world is all about them and don't appreciate anything and are just ready to sic their expectations on you, offering nothing good in return.
As soon as I get away from it all I have another one trying to live off of me, it's become such an expectation that women will just pay half the bills. It's too late you know, you don't have all the time in the world. You only have a window of opportunity. Test that and you'll see what poverty is. Oh, but a different window of opportunity, has come up....buying at half the price.